Tuesday, March 16, 2010

And, BREATHE...

Is it just me, or are things getting a little too serious in Blogland as of late?

It seems like people are bickering way too much, casting aspersions at each other as if a New York Times article is a personal insult lobbed at their own mother. Yes, I know that blogs, especially "Mommy Blogs" are how some people make their living. Really though, if you are a professional blogger, you have to learn how to deal with professional criticism. If you don't? Then you need to pick another profession.

I know that writing a "Mommy Blog" (how I hate that term, does anyone else think that is the root of the problem?), is different because it is so personal. After all, tech writers don't have to go home and wonder how well they are treating their iPads, and operating systems. However, they do have something in common with the MBs -- they chose their professions, and likely enjoy the attention they receive from them. Yes, it would be wonderful if that attention was always wonderful, and positive. It would also be wonderful if I could control by weight by wishing.

I just can't get over how a group of clever, funny, talented, intelligent women get their panties in a bunge so easily, and so publicly. Do they know how hard it is to get a mention in the New York Times? Do they not realize that, yes, something is considered a trend for quite some time until it has unequivocally proven it's social worth? Do they not know that even after that it will likely still be mocked and criticized by people who are jealous or don't understand?

Nothing is ever universally accepted right away, and if it is, it probably is a scam. If you aren't willing to do the tough work of breaking down preconceptions, then maybe go into a profession where that has been done.

I guess what I am trying to say is that instead of fighting amongst ourselves (which just makes us look insular, like D&D freaks) let's prove our worth. Oh, and let's get rid of that fucking "Mommy Blog" label. I think Steamy would agree..

16 comments:

She Said said...

Well, damn!

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Christopher said...

love it. so love it. well said.

Riot Kitty said...

That last statement could easily apply to the cause my organization works for - amen, sister!

PS My word verification is "hable," which means "Speak!" in Spanish.

Jules said...

I REALLY think the NYT should focus on picking on "Teacher Bloggers" for a change. I mean, what is UP with THOSE people? Let's write a column about them!!

G said...

Interesting post.

I do want to make a slight correction though.

In the chat rooms, the phrase was "Don't get your panties in a bunch".

Beyond that, I haven't really witnessed what you described. Then again, there are very few "mommy blogs" that I visit on a regular basis.

Kim said...

It's my most heartfelt wish that someday I will become a total sellout. I will happily write 250 words on why Desitin is the most awesome ass product ever.

Gina said...

Yeah! What you said! Of course this comes from someone who is not a mommy-blogger (ew, I hate that term) - I write about my kids occasionally, but I think that when I am writing about what assholes they are being, or when most of my posts have to do with things other than my kids, or when I call people cocksuckers on a regular basis, it kind of takes me out of the mommy-blogger set.

Also - hardly anyone reads my blog, so I can't really take offense at articles like that because, mostly, no one cares what I'm saying or doing. But even if they did, and that article was about me - so what? I don't give a shit what anyone else thinks.

Alyssa said...

I think you know how I feel about this already. At least I hope you do (post Mon. March 15)

Thanks for expressing your sentiments...

from a mother-*******

Ha! ******* stands for "blogger"

Captain Dumbass said...

The "Mommy-bloggers" of mommy blogs definitely need to step back and relax a bit.

Heather said...

I must have missed all the hooplah, cause I was busy wiping someone else's butt probably.

I think this is what happens when you finally give SAHMs an outlet for their voices. They're pissed, dammit. And you're gonna hear about it. Why aren't blogs written by men called daddy blogs?

Or maybe this is about something totally different. See, I have missed all the hooplah.... Can someone send me a link? I want to lookiloo.

Sam said...

I was on a local NPR show about "Mommy Blogs," back in the day when I was sleep-deprived, and while I was thrilled about the whole thing I remember vaguely wondering "Mommy blog? Wha? What is that referring to? The blog is about ME!"

just making my way said...

Jules makes me laugh.

Nicely done, Libby.

Sprite's Keeper said...

I'm fine with being a mommy blogger, but you just gave me the idea for next week's Spin. Thanks!
As for the article, I expected some of the "upper level" bloggers to raise their voices, because that's what they do and their comments sections usually blow up with controversy from their efforts. I took no offense to it because I consider my blog to be entertainment, not enlightening. I don't run ads, I don't intend to, so I get to sit back and watch from the sidelines, amused by both sides of it. You're right. Some need to unclench, others need to stop stirring the pot. It's a big blogosphere. You don't need to be on one side or the other.

Steam Me Up, Kid said...

Yeah, I'm totally in the dark about this whole uproar. But I do enjoy my strange new "mommyblogger" status.

However, I also like Maternal Internet Wordsmith. Let's go with that.

melistress said...

What is a mommy blog? Am I a mommy blogger? I have children and occasionally I include them in my blog. But I like to have a blog that reaches outside my motherhood role.

GAH! I don't want to be pidgeon-holed!

*inhale through the nose and out through the mouth*

msprimadonna67 said...

I'm with you--I'm not gonna apologize for what I write about, but Ohmygoodness, I can't stand that label!