Monday, October 19, 2009

Crossing a Line

There are some crimes I can understand. Embezzlement. Shoplifting. Monkey theft. I am not saying I would, or have, committed them, but I can understand why people do. There are others that are harder to comprehend, like murder or kidnapping. And then there is the one I will never get: child sex abuse -- specifically those cases that involve a teacher having a relationship with a student. It isn't that I don't understand wanting to have sex. Or wanting to abuse power. It's the fact that any adult, with any adult dating experience, would want to have that type of relationship with a teenager. After all, teens are gross.

My husband is a teacher, my Mom is a teacher, and quite a few of my friends are teachers as well. Because of that, I am in schools, and around kids, quite a bit, and I have observed their grossness firsthand. They dress horribly. They eat disgusting things in a disgusting manner. They talk loudly, and about ridiculous things. Oh, and they smell. If it isn't body odor, it's too much cologne. Really, I think the only reason teenagers are attracted to each other is that their brains and/or olfactory senses are not fully developed.

How desperate and/or stupid does someone have to be to overlook all of the things that make a teen a teen? Even worse, how desperate and/or stupid and/or deluded does someone have to be to convince themselves that it is a "real" relationship. It is bad enough when we report on teachers that have abused their power and entered into a sexual relationship with a student. It is even worse when they try to justify their actions by claiming to be "in love." Oh, really. What is it that sealed the relationship? A shared love of the Jonas Brothers? Those long conversations that center around bad poetry and reality television? Or maybe it's the belief that showering is not necessary as long as Axe body spray is available?

Just gross.

What really makes me angry (outside of the emotional/physical damage done to the victims) is that for each of these emotionally stunted predators there are dozens of good teachers, who really care about kids, who have to deal with the fallout. Every teacher I know lives in fear of being accused of improper dealings with a student. All new teachers in the state of Utah must now take a seminar about proper teacher student relationships, as if they are all potential predators. Why? Because a handful of their colleagues have no moral compass and lousy taste in who to date.

Nope, I don't get it.

9 comments:

LB @Wait, She Said What? said...

I agree with you. I don’t get why adults want to date/have sex with teens at all. I didn’t even want to be with another teen when I was one, never mind now. Ugh.

Jules said...

That kind of shit pisses me off! When I have to take seminars and stuff because OTHER teachers SUCK.....Don't EVEN get me started!

Not to mention that these people who commit these crimes must be complete morons to begin with.....

And seriously, if parents could just help their kids out a LITTLE with the cologne, my allergies would appreciate it 10 fold.

erin said...

And like a seminar is going to keep the real bad guys from messing with students anyways?

Miss Yvonne said...

I have a 17 year old son and I can barely understand why a girl his own age would be interested in his gross self, much less a grown woman. Lady! Boys that age still don't remember to scrub behind their ears and don't brush their teeth unless their mommies yell at them to do it. And don't even get me started on his laundry. 17 year old boy boxers are pretty much the grossiest thing I've touched.

Aunt Juicebox said...

I have to admit, I had a few crushes on some of my much older male teachers when I was in school. But never once did any of them ever give me any indication that they wanted to "tutor me after school". But the world is full of perverts, this we know.

Kristina P. said...

Amen! I am a social worker, and I work with teenagers. This kind of thing is devastating for them.

It's unfortunate, but I know someone, a former friend, who if it was discovered she was having sex with a student, I would be surprised, but not completely shocked.

KAM said...

If someone came on to one of my girls like that, they better hope they get arrested before I could get my hands on them, cause I'd freaking kill them, but before I did I would destroy their so called manly bits.

just making my way said...

Yeah - that shit so doesn't make any sense to me. Just awful.

Your observations on teens made me laugh though. And dread the years to come.

Aunt Becky said...

Yeah, I don't get it at all.