Okay, so I think we all agree that the incident on Friday was most likely about racism.
Only one problem though. I can almost guarantee the man who thought he was being asked for money instead the time does not think of himself as a racist. I bet his friends don't think of him as a racist. I wouldn't be surprised if he spent the rest of his night trying to convince himself that the way he responded wasn't based on race, and that it was all just a misunderstanding. He probably reminded himself that he has plenty of friends of color.
That's the problem.
You can't start making changes until you admit there are changes to be made.
I've thought a lot about what I wish had happened Friday night. I mean, other than it not happening at all. The best case scenario? It would have ended with an apology. It would have ended with an acknowledgment of what happened, and a new resolve not to let it happen again.
That would have been uncomfortable though.
It would have required an admission that racism still exists, even among people who don't consider themselves racist.
And no one really wants to do that, do they?