I try not to talk about adoption on this blog, because I know it's a volatile issue, and the last time I did people wrote comments that made me cry. However, today I read something so egregious I can't ignore it. I need to say something.
I think we all know who Jillian Michaels is. We have either seen her on the "Biggest Loser," or had her yelling at us in the privacy of our own homes as we do her workout tapes. Really, she makes me cry almost as much as mean blog comments. Of course, I'm out of breath when I'm crying with Jillian, so it's a health hazard. Anyway, today I was reading an interview with Jillian in which she said she doesn't want to get pregnant because she doesn't want to "ruin" her body, and because "when you rescue something, it's like rescuing a part of yourself."
I am begging you, Jillian, please don't adopt.
Adoption is about loving a child, and taking responsibility for it. It is not about rescuing them. If you go into it with that mindset you will always feel like the child owes you something, and they don't. Actually, I think parents who adopt owe their children more, because they are putting them in a difficult situation, where uncomfortable questions are sure to be asked, and hard feelings are sure to be dealt with, and the kid had no say in it.
Every day when I Meg wakes up I thank God for her. I thank God for the woman who gave birth to her and is letting me be her Mom too. I feel rescued, and I renew my promise to pay back what I have received. I think (and it's just my opinion, don't vilify me in the comments if you disagree) that if you aren't willing to do the same then you should not adopt. Actually, maybe you should rethink parenting altogether.
Also, no parents should yell at their kids that "400 pound people" can crawl, so they should too. I guess that means Jillian's out.
Maybe we could all pitch in and get her a fat puppy instead.