I try not to talk about adoption on this blog, because I know it's a volatile issue, and the last time I did people wrote comments that made me cry. However, today I read something so egregious I can't ignore it. I need to say something.
I think we all know who Jillian Michaels is. We have either seen her on the "Biggest Loser," or had her yelling at us in the privacy of our own homes as we do her workout tapes. Really, she makes me cry almost as much as mean blog comments. Of course, I'm out of breath when I'm crying with Jillian, so it's a health hazard. Anyway, today I was reading an interview with Jillian in which she said she doesn't want to get pregnant because she doesn't want to "ruin" her body, and because "when you rescue something, it's like rescuing a part of yourself."
I am begging you, Jillian, please don't adopt.
Adoption is about loving a child, and taking responsibility for it. It is not about rescuing them. If you go into it with that mindset you will always feel like the child owes you something, and they don't. Actually, I think parents who adopt owe their children more, because they are putting them in a difficult situation, where uncomfortable questions are sure to be asked, and hard feelings are sure to be dealt with, and the kid had no say in it.
Every day when I Meg wakes up I thank God for her. I thank God for the woman who gave birth to her and is letting me be her Mom too. I feel rescued, and I renew my promise to pay back what I have received. I think (and it's just my opinion, don't vilify me in the comments if you disagree) that if you aren't willing to do the same then you should not adopt. Actually, maybe you should rethink parenting altogether.
Also, no parents should yell at their kids that "400 pound people" can crawl, so they should too. I guess that means Jillian's out.
Maybe we could all pitch in and get her a fat puppy instead.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
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I blame every one of my stretch marks on my kids, and I love all 100+ of them (the stretchmarks)because of what they symbolize. parenthood/motherhood (adopted or bio) is NOT for anybody who is that self involved. period.
That woman is despicable.
"Rescue" someone? Like a puppy? People like that probably won't pass the psych tests to adopt kids.
Yep. That comment by Jillian Michaels is disgusting on all counts. It's insulting to adoptive parents and equally I silting to women who would love a pregnancy if their bodies could. Meg is beautiful, and you are hilarious.
Ooh...that comment stings! Obviously I'm not well acquainted with adoption, but we've always thought we would adopt at least one child, but I have never thought of it as a rescue. Wow...I hope that if she ever gets to the point of wanting to adopt she'll get some intense counseling first.
Where's the button for pitching in?
I think I ruined my body with chocolate. I rescued that. Jillian really SHOULD only speak of what she knows......
Ruining one's body by becoming...GASP!....PREGNANT?!
I that lady would not, could not, should not, go anywhere near a child in her lifetime.
May she get stuck in the middle of a screaming group of two year olds with seperation anxiety issues.
For two hours.
Daily.
I couldn't agree with you more. People like this make me sick. She doesn't need kids, she's having a hard enough time raising herself.
People leave you mean comments when you talk about adoption?
Who are these people and where can I find them? Douchebags...
As for Jillian - my question is what happens when she has bags under her eyes because her kid won't let her sleep....does she just return it for a full refund?
I wonder how Heidi Klum would feel about the 'ruining' the body comment. Ha.
Maybe pregnancy could do something about Jillian
s face. What's that called, nice body, ugly face?
I believe the term is "butterface"
Doesn't want to ruin her body? Rescue? I think Jillian needs a great big glass of STFU. What in the hell?
Also, I'm with Dual Mom-- who in the hell would leave you a mean comment regarding adoption. People really suck and sometimes need to be punched in the face. I volunteer my fist.
word verification: shutt
hehehe
I have many reasons for hating her. I'll just add this to the list.
Ugh.
I'm adopted with 2 beautiful adopted girls and it's great to find a blog where adoption is talked about in such a positive way by you.
For two hours, daily; I agree!
I find it hilarious that she doesn't want to get pregnant because it would ruin her body. First off, it would not. But my point is that saggy boobs and wider feet are the least of it. The real changes are in your LIFE, lady, every day, in every way.
She's worried about the flatness of her tummy? HA, HA, HA. Worry about the real stuff, like emergency room visits, and 2 am wakeup calls, and learning disabilities, and keeping those kiddos safe!
beth
Boo. Hiss. She has no problem ruining tv...
I totally agree with your take on adoption, your daughter is very, very lucky...
Wow. I mean, really. Wow! I am at a loss for what to say about this shallow woman.
You are an amazing mom, Libby!
Meg is a beautiful girl with wonderful parents!
You have followers who are awesome and have great things to say.
Look at that! I had something to say after all! :)
Love your thoughts on what parents owe to their kids.
What an incredibly ridiculous attitude about pregnancy and adoption. Worst part is, more people will hear that since she is "in the spotlight." Ugh.
I don't know much about adoption, and I don't know much about Jillian Michaels, but I do know that I love the way you look at things, and children most of all.
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