Friday, July 10, 2009

Update

We are here at the hospital, waiting to sign papers to make a beautiful baby girl legally ours. I cannot express how hard the last 36 hours have been. First of all, we thought we had two weeks until the birth, and second, we just can't wait until the uncertainty period (will the birth mother sign, won't she) is over. We want to take what we hope is our baby home.

We are not the only adoptive parents here. In fact, most of the rooms on our hall are for mothers placing babies; you can tell because they put a little gift package sign on the door. It's heartbreaking and amazing all at the same time. Here are these women doing the hardest thing they will ever have to do, and here are couples who are getting the gift they have been waiting for, in some cases, their whole lives.

The birth mother is wonderful. I almost feel I have bonded more with her than with the baby. Of course, that may have something to do with the fact Ryan won't put the baby down. The birth mother is smart, talkative, funny, and opinionated. I adore her. Last night we sat and trash talked TV shows until the nurses kicked Ryan and me out. Through all of this I really hope she knows how much we love this baby, and how grateful we are to her. We will always remember her, and not just because the baby has her dimple when she smiles.

Thank you for all your kind words and offers to help. I will post pictures when we get her home. Ryan will be in all of them.

22 comments:

Andrea! said...

I seriously cannot wait to meet this new peanut! I'm so happy for you both!!XOXO I'll quit saying that now.

Aunt Juicebox said...

Congratulations! I'm so excited for you, and I hope you'll tell us everything. Well, as much as you have time for with a new little one to take care of!

Courtney said...

Awwww so exciting. Congratulations.

Karlyn said...

Aaron just came walking in and said to me, "Are you crying?" I said, "Well duh."

Congratulations. I am so happy, excited and all those other words for you guys.

Kelly said...

Congratulations! I could not be happier for you (even though I feel a little creepy saying that since we don't know one another.)

Harley King said...

So exciting. I hope the birthmother signs. Please sign.

Anonymous said...

I am overwhelmed with joy and happiness for you and your family...what a blessing!
My love and support to all of you! I can't wait to meet her!
Love Mary in Boise

-- Albert and Jenni -- said...

Congratulations. We are all thinking of you here in the newsroom. You'll both be great parents!

--Albert

*Akilah Sakai* said...

A beautiful, beautiful thing is about to happen to you. Hoping all goes smoothly as far as the paperwork.

*hugs*

Badass Geek said...

Congrats! That is very exciting.

Snotty McSnotterson said...

As a happily adopted baby girl-turned-whiny grown woman, I salute thee on your amazing choice. My tear ducts are normally reserved for angry outbursts and Hallmark commercials, but I'm pouring one out for you, homie.

Shannon said...

That is so AWESOME! Congratulations... cannot wait to see pics.. your sister seems very excited as well!

Kristine said...

I didn't realize you were so close to having this happen!

I hope is goes smoothly for everyone. Congratulations :)

Brent and Anne said...

Congratulations! She is so precious. You guys must be beyond happy!

Kim said...

I have been dying!!!! I'm so excited for you I keep wanting to tell everyone and then all of my friends would be like "Libby who?" YOU ARE SO GOING TO BE A MOMMY BLOGGER!! I am so happy for you blood tears are running down my face.

Sandi said...

Libby, I love my birthmoms too and the ones I got to spend time with and bond to.... Well, it's even better. I can't say I bonded quicker to those babies, but I think I understand them better. I know where they came from and who they came from and I am so grateful for the hours I spent with each one of the ones I got to.

I am over the moon for you! You'll probably never call me again now that the adoption is over, but I am here as friend too if you ever want to talk black hair or something!

Dana's Brain said...

I have tears in my eyes!! Such wonderful news, Libby! Can't wait to see pictures!

Gina said...

I'm so happy for you! I think the gift sign on the door is perfect - there is no more beautiful gift than the one these kind, brave women are giving.

Emily-Ione said...

That actually made me tear up.

Concerned Parent said...

A gift package on the door to signal impending adoption?

Every adoptive parent I know of would be up in arms about such an insult to the babies and their first families. Adoption is not the transfer of ownership of a possession.

Did you complain to hospital administration and let them know how offensive it was?

Logical Libby said...

To be honest, we were so overwhelmed with the whole process that we didn't even think about the gift thing until after we got home.

SaraL said...

Libby,

Congratulations on your sweet baby girl! Truly, it is a gift!

Just so you know, if you are receiving any "weird" comments, it's because your blog has been posted on an anti-adoption site. Though not the only one of its kind, this particular site trolls the internet looking for potential and adoptive parents and then writes scathing messages about them and posts a link to the blog in question. If it were me, I'd want to know the source.

http://www.inquisitor.com/pcgi-bin/media.cgi?NA=Media&AC=List&SC=One&DI=Damn&SU=vultures&FI=024

A Fried