tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post955853649637982026..comments2023-06-29T05:54:29.963-06:00Comments on Libby Logic: Color and RaceLogical Libbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00107961721466815295noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-57688510057877544092012-02-02T17:15:30.074-07:002012-02-02T17:15:30.074-07:00I think you did great actually! My son is nowhere ...I think you did great actually! My son is nowhere near that level of conversation of or ability to distinguish colours. It is slightly different for us because my husband's skin is as dark if not darker than my son's (but my husband is not "black"). I think you did well. I always think, when the time comes for tricky conversations Keep it Simple!harriet glynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223388139583386938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-17966779905607431992012-01-30T13:44:07.171-07:002012-01-30T13:44:07.171-07:00That is the cutest thing! I love it!That is the cutest thing! I love it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-28740907691056699842012-01-25T18:32:39.642-07:002012-01-25T18:32:39.642-07:00These conversations are just your warm up ones. I ...These conversations are just your warm up ones. I think you are doing great. Keep blogging about it so it helps when I get there, ok? :)Three Cats and a Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16757969648902689785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-72058183589360047432012-01-25T08:48:53.393-07:002012-01-25T08:48:53.393-07:00I think you were a master there. One of the books...I think you were a master there. One of the books I read in the early days had the best advice I follow to this day: "need to know basis." Kids want to talk about race and adoption about as much as they do any other subject: not very much, and not for very long. And they will cue you quite handily when they are done. I never launch into larger issues when my child has just interrupted our touching moment with "Do we have any fruit leather?" :)Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04112717691155332450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-10305299731880799892012-01-23T09:13:57.057-07:002012-01-23T09:13:57.057-07:00I don't think you bungled it at all. Being a ...I don't think you bungled it at all. Being a mother of biracial children, I've been taken off guard by these questions too. My kids are light brown, I'm white, and my husband is very dark skinned. Race is a constant conversation in my house. I've learned to be very open and honest, while keeping it simple. Sometimes we read more into the questions, sometimes not enough. The older she gets, the more intense the questions will be. Six months ago, Elijah said that he wished his skin was white like his friends. My heart burst for him to even think that,and for my husband and oldest son who both became infuriated upon overhearing this conversation. I'm fairly certain I had tears in my eyes as I said, "WHY would you ever say that? Why? You are beautiful Elijah, and we wouldn't ever want you to change anything about yourself. Why would you say that?" Turns out, the thought came from him, because majority of his preschool is white. Nobody had even said anything to him. If you ever need to talk, I'm here for you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12551501505348753532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-8841163431080402222012-01-23T08:22:37.285-07:002012-01-23T08:22:37.285-07:00You did a very fine job with that, I'd say. :...You did a very fine job with that, I'd say. :) No bungle, from what I can see. Serious talks come later, I'm thinking.<br /><br />Our five year old brought up the color-of-skin thing about a week ago, himself. I'm sure it had to do with the curriculum of MLK that they're teaching in his Kindergarten class. We had a good talk about it all, and he schooled me and his mom on the subject somethin' fierce. It was awesome.<br /><br />Also, just wanted to say, I used to follow you a while back as the "I am writing you today" blog guy. I look forward to catchin' up. :)The Twisted Tinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07575455017637686228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-41759680580243691622012-01-22T06:07:03.709-07:002012-01-22T06:07:03.709-07:00I'm reading a book you might find helpful, _Do...I'm reading a book you might find helpful, _Does Anybody Else Look Like Me? A Parent's Guide to Raising Multiracial Children_. My kids are mixed race, but the book does also address transracial adoption.Mary Anne Mohanrajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07743780590702938490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-1212848958714479102012-01-20T17:11:09.287-07:002012-01-20T17:11:09.287-07:00I think that you handle it very well.I think that you handle it very well.G. B. Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09783331838434598963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-54962486726920567082012-01-20T16:04:21.593-07:002012-01-20T16:04:21.593-07:00way to go mommy! you handled it great. and the bes...way to go mommy! you handled it great. and the best part was that she was satisified with the answer. It's the worst when they keep asking you questions. It's like in math class when you keep getting the answer wrong and the teacher points that long ruler stick thing in your face.Hippo Brigadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11864811988018961137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-15776764395120319182012-01-20T15:27:41.219-07:002012-01-20T15:27:41.219-07:00The other day, E told me she knows why people have...The other day, E told me she knows why people have different skin. She says it's because that's one of the ways we are all special. <br /><br />I think you handled it well.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16928801357264791430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-15606507999802351642012-01-20T15:07:41.218-07:002012-01-20T15:07:41.218-07:00I don't understand how you could have bungled ...I don't understand how you could have bungled that up, because I don't know anything better that you could have said. Well done.Rassleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12370070146085209687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-76406551747694420342012-01-20T03:06:29.715-07:002012-01-20T03:06:29.715-07:00I think you did great and no matter what you say, ...I think you did great and no matter what you say, as long as the love comes through she'll get the right message.Philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09410795209306696264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-13370559283258442762012-01-20T02:14:18.071-07:002012-01-20T02:14:18.071-07:00I think you did a great job by the way :-)I think you did a great job by the way :-)Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16842778531500045113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-90602816159332641132012-01-19T22:33:17.589-07:002012-01-19T22:33:17.589-07:00I think you explained it just perfectly. What kind...I think you explained it just perfectly. What kind of fucked up world do we live in when one's two-year-old is asking questions about race? <br /><br />Mr. RK is pink, and I am yellow.Riot Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02725825736285347870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-34214778474733534662012-01-19T17:16:53.769-07:002012-01-19T17:16:53.769-07:00Probably a lot of parents facing the same question...Probably a lot of parents facing the same question as you do. <br /><br />Following you back!aki!https://www.blogger.com/profile/07337004825129185878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-80513205378305321972012-01-19T14:56:41.534-07:002012-01-19T14:56:41.534-07:00Wow to Cindy. I totally lost track of what I was g...Wow to Cindy. I totally lost track of what I was going to say...BugginWordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11469980416319902081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-70391454230329863462012-01-19T14:17:24.853-07:002012-01-19T14:17:24.853-07:00I think you handled it beautifully. We haven'...I think you handled it beautifully. We haven't had that conversation with Lion yet but we have with Bunny. We are pink, she is peach and Lion is brown.Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09248657031971456469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-60677144940615409672012-01-19T10:37:18.890-07:002012-01-19T10:37:18.890-07:00I think you did a good job. I still don't real...I think you did a good job. I still don't really get why black people are called black people when they are really brown. <br /><br />You better get used to those unexpected questions when you least expect them, that's when all the big ones happen. <br /><br />Mea usually drops these when we are in the car waiting in various drive thru lanes, the bank, the pharmacy, dinner, etc. Last one she laid on me was where do babies come from. I loved having the pharmacist come on speaker while I was explaining that one.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13199164907126413792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-91428212281354669182012-01-19T07:55:06.326-07:002012-01-19T07:55:06.326-07:00I think you handled it pretty wonderfully. Short, ...I think you handled it pretty wonderfully. Short, honest, and with a dash of support and love in case she was feeling insecure about the color differences between you. Brava, momma.Nicole Leigh Shawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02042126240711460836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7670512488001349318.post-34366703494526399392012-01-19T07:42:32.156-07:002012-01-19T07:42:32.156-07:00Timely. My daughter just walked up to me and told ...Timely. My daughter just walked up to me and told me my people sprayed her people with hoses when MLK was alive. Like 20 minutes ago. Wasn't expecting that one either....Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16842778531500045113noreply@blogger.com